Marriage?? Love?? comments please...
Ok, heres the deal. I've been thinking alot lately about the validity of marriage. I know people like to do it as a sign of their love and commitment to one another and commitment to god. I just wonder why people would want to do it with the statistics for divorce as high as they are. I cannot imagine loving someone so much that you want to spend your whole life with them and then turn around 10 mayeb even 2 years later and be hating them and never want to talk to them again. I cant imagine that because I would marry someone who wasnt only my lover, but also my best friend. I dont know how you can go from loving someone so much to hating them. The pain that you must go through during that time is unimaginable. And what about the children? If there are children involved what about them? Do people think what the impact may be on them to have their parents never wanting to talk to one another? For them to live in seperate states but to never even want to call the house in case they have to speak to the other party?
So I guess the whole point of this post isnt questioning what the point of marriage is but what is the point of love?
Sure its great while your there but the chances of it failing are that great and the chances of feeling that unimaginable pain that I talked about earlier is that great that I seriously being to wonder the point of loving anyone, after all I heard a saying in a show the other day that made so much sense to me and really hit home:
"The hardest thing you'll ever learn is how to say goodbye"
What I want to know is, is it easier to learn how to say goodbye or just to never say hello in the first place???
Any comments on this by anyone reading would be much appreciated.
posted by Alex @ 10:55 PM
3 Comments:
Wow, Alex, so deep! I am liking this side of you a lot. Well for a start I'd get married just for the sake of defying the statistics. But thats just me.
I tell you what is more painful than parents who wont talk to each other. Its parents who do nothing but shout and yell at each other.
I guess marriage is a case of risking everything to gain something that could be very special.
Hi Alex-
Glad to see that you are up and blogging. Since you've visited my blog, the least I can do is support yours. Now to your question.....
I've been resistant towards the whole marriage thing b/c of the fact that most of my friends & family members have done it and most of them have failed at it. So that being said, why do it if it seems to bring more pain than happiness?
Not to say that marriage doesn't work- lord knows there are plenty of them that do. However, I am of the mindset (for now anyways) that if you meet someone and make a connection and move in and everything works fine, then why muck things up with an overblown, expensive and stressed out ceremony? Especially when (in the U.S. anyways) you will become common-law married if you stay together long enough anyway? Just my two cents...but don't let that scare you off.
Did I just babble too much? Lack of sleep I guess.... Thanks 'gain for checking me out!
Cheers for the thoughts guys!
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